Teaching Children ‘The Five B’s’ to Prevent Sexual Abuse

I’m hoping my previous blogs have made you more aware of the dangers of child sexual abuse and provided you with a high level of education to better prepare you to begin taking the necessary steps to educate and train your children and any children in your care to protect themselves against sexual abuse. In no way are we condoning that you can educate and train your children and no longer be an active participant in determining what is best for your child. We are saying that preventing child sexual abuse requires sharing knowledge (even if at first it makes us uncomfortable) with children.

Preventing sexual abuse is an adult responsibility…part of that responsibility is to educate our most vulnerable, our children.

My experience has taught me there are two groups of people. The individuals in the first group actually “get it.” The first group is made up of people who have been treated for sexual abuse, or, people who treat survivors of sexual abuse or at least work in the medical field and in their studies became more familiar with the subject of child sexual abuse. Unfortunately, this is probably 10% of the population.

Most individuals in the second group, the other 90% of the population, just simply don’t “get it.” This is due to lack of education, denial, or simply because this topic makes them ‘squirmy’. My hope and goal is to reach the 90% of the population, possibly you, because lack of awareness and education is partially why so much abuse is taking place. I’m not going to lie, this topic is difficult to navigate and hard to discuss. However, the harder we make it on ourselves, the easier we are making it for pedophiles to get away with “murdering the souls” of children. In fact, we have a program at Bailey Bee Believes® that makes it easier for you to teach your children.

The reasons why we must Educate, Encourage, and Empower even our youngest children are:

  • Research shows that we learn the most in our lives from birth to 5 years of age. This is the most crucial time to educate our children with these skills.
  • Sexual Predators do not discriminate against children 2-6 years of age.
  • We cannot be with our children every second of every day. We need to teach even our youngest the communication skills they need to be able to tell us if someone has behaved inappropriately toward them.
  • Beginning this conversation at a young age will open doors and opportunities to continue the conversations about sex, puberty, and other health related topics in the future.

“The Five B’s” that we will be discussing in detail that will help bridge the gap for you to educate your own children and which will be highlighted in upcoming blogs include:

  1. Body Parts
  2. Boundaries
  3. Be Brave: Yell and Tell
  4. Bust Secrets
  5. Be Bold and Believe

It’s crucial to understand that you must continue to educate yourselves and demand that the facilities your children attend conduct ongoing training for their staff on all subjects related to quality child care, including prevention of child sexual abuse.

Unfortunately, even when children are educated, sexual abuse can and does happen. Our hope is that with “The Five B’s” you will have the tools necessary to assist you with your awareness and demand programs, such as ours, be implemented in the facilities where your children participate, so sexual abuse will no longer have a place to hide its darkness.

Only with the lights on everywhere children reside, play, and learn, can we prevent child sexual abuse.


Jennifer Hillman is a licensed speech-language pathologist, producer of the AWARD-WINNING educational DVD, “The Five B’s”, mother of two and an active advocate and speaker for sexual abuse prevention education in the home, churches and in schools.

For more information on this topic and the AWARD-WINNING educational DVD on empowering children about body safety to prevent sexual abuse, go to www.baileybeebelieves.com.


Bailey Bee Believes
"This informative DVD empowers our children and teaches valuable life lessons; Bailey Bee makes it fun.

Jennifer’s goal to raise awareness of sexual abuse for families with small children is right on target."


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