Should We Allow Sleepovers?

Jennifer Hillman is a mother of two, licensed speech-language pathologist, producer of the award-winning educational DVD, “The Five B’s”, and an active advocate and speaker for sexual abuse prevention education in the home, churches, and in schools.

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  1. Becky Gustafson says:

    Hi Jennifer-

    As you know we moved to a new area 3 1/2 years ago. This puts us in a different position then if we grew up in the same town and now are raising out kids there Because of a conversation I had with a lady at my church who was interviewing me to be able to volunteer with children, we have adopted her policy of no sleepovers unless we have known the parents for at least 5 years. When my daughter turned 7′ her friends started having birthday sleepovers. She herself was not ready so it was easier for her to “blame” me (which I did not mind) as to why she could not sleep over. Several times I have picked her up at 10pm and returned her at 8am and it has worked out great. As a child I don’t remember going on a lot of sleepovers but as a mom, I am not a big fan. Where we live there are a lot of multigenerational homes. Knowing that, it does make me nervous because I may feel I know the parents fairly well but may not totally know all the relatives that may be around. I guess in summary, I feel sleepovers are not truly necessary and furthermore open your children up, and maybe yourself, to situations that may be harmful or dangerous. I still have a year and a half to figure it out 🙂

    • Jennifer Hillman says:

      Becky, thank you so much for your response. I really like the idea of picking her up at 10 pm and dropping her back off at 8 am. That is what some of my friends’ parents did when I was growing up. I would ask my friend why she couldn’t stay and she always replied with, “Because my mom doesn’t think anything productive happens after 10 pm.” Oh, and that friend grew up healthy and happy! It didn’t ruin her life to have that rule in her home :0 I know we’ve shared this sentiment before…but, isn’t parenting fun?!


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