One Mother’s Journey from an Instinct to an Opportunity

Jennifer Hillman

Jennifer Hillman was raised in Oklahoma and through her life experiences she became passionate about most everything she pursued. Seeking a college education, Jennifer attended the University of Oklahoma and her interests and career placement assessments led her to obtain a B.A. Degree in Criminology/Sociology. Anxious to apply her skills, Jennifer was hired right out of college for an inpatient mental health facility where children ages 2-18 were being treated. Jennifer had the opportunity to work on the STARS unit, a unit where children who had been sexually abused were placed. Children, ages 2-6, were being retrained about appropriate boundaries/behaviors. As Jennifer worked side by side with nurses, doctors, and psychologists treating those children, she learned a great deal that would later prove to be invaluable.

While working in the hospital, Jennifer was assisting in the treatment of a patient who was deaf. She soon noticed that after his interpreter left he struggled to communicate on his own, making it difficult for both the patient and her. Motivated by her struggles to communicate with him, she immediately enrolled in a class to learn American Sign Language. While pursuing that education, Jennifer was exposed to the role of a speech-language pathologist and knew she had a new goal. Returning to college, Jennifer obtained her M.S. Degree, and is now a practicing licensed speech-language pathologist.

Continuing her life journey, she married Jon Hillman. After giving birth to two children, and excited to experience the role of a mother, Jennifer found herself in a situation where she had an overwhelming instinct that she needed to be very proactive to teach/train her own daughters to prevent sexual abuse. Doing what she had always done, she sought educational materials to reinforce what she was teaching her girls. While she found a few books to purchase, there were no DVDs to be found.

To further her own education about sexual abuse, she read the book, Protecting the Gift, by Gavin De Becker. She was shocked by the alarming rate sexual abuse reportedly occurs in this country and by the lack of available appropriate resources. Today, 1 out of 10 children are sexually abused by the time they are 18 years of age. Also, 90% of the children who are abused are abused by someone the child and the family know and trust. Jennifer was also alarmed by the lack of knowledge and lack of courage she witnessed by other moms she associates with when first addressing this taboo subject. The more she realized the discomfort about simply discussing this subject, the more she started to understand why, in some cases, it occurs. That is when it was placed on her heart that she must use her available resources to script and find a producer for a DVD to provide an educational tool that was not available to her.

As Jennifer continued her education to adequately educate her own children, she became a facilitator for a program, Darkness to Light™, Stewards of Children®, and has trained teachers in the north Dallas area to join the mission of being proactive against sexual abuse. This training is aimed at educating adults, and she stands firm in her belief that every adult who is around children must get this training to further their education to protect children.

Reviews

Bailey Bee Believes
"This informative DVD empowers our children and teaches valuable life lessons; Bailey Bee makes it fun.

Jennifer’s goal to raise awareness of sexual abuse for families with small children is right on target."

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