Statistics of Childhood Sexual Abuse – Video

Depending on what website that is viewed, there will be varying statistics of childhood sexual abuse. Please watch to learn more on why we report on the optimistic statistics and how they are still inaccurate.   Jennifer Hillman is a mother of two, licensed speech-language pathologist, producer of the award-winning educational DVD, “The Five B’s”, and an active advocate and speaker for sexual abuse prevention education in the home, churches, and in schools. For more information on this topic and Bailey Bee Believes® award-winning educational DVD on empowering children about body safety to prevent sexual abuse, go to www.baileybeebelieves.com.  

What New Year’s Resolution Is Worth Keeping?

I know, I know. You are tired of hearing about sexual abuse. In fact, you just don’t want to think about it so it seems like it doesn’t exist. I hate to be the bearer of all bad news, but I know that child sexual abuse exists and is happening at a frightening rate. You know something else? If you are reading this, I also know that you are a good person like me and that you don’t want to see or hear about one more child that is being or was harmed. In order to prevent child sexual abuse in the year of 2015, we need to get BOLD… Continue Reading

Why Discuss Child Sexual Abuse in 2015?

  I completely understand that discussing child sexual abuse can make some people uncomfortable. However, we must first get uncomfortable in order to get comfortable with this topic. If not, the darkness will continue to take over. Let’s STEP UP to prevent child sexual abuse. I believe it’s time…don’t you? Please watch and share. Jennifer Hillman is a mother of two, licensed speech-language pathologist, producer of the award-winning educational DVD, “The Five B’s”, and an active advocate and speaker for sexual abuse prevention education in the home, churches and in schools.

The Importance of Teaching the B, Bust Secrets

After your children have a better understanding about their Body Parts, setting Boundaries, and how to Be Brave: Yell and Tell, then we move onto our next B, which is Bust Secrets. Because predators use highly manipulative behavior in order to keep a child quiet, which includes secrets, then we must teach our children that nobody is allowed to tell us secrets and we aren’t allowed to tell secrets either. We must first be very specific and explain to the child that a secret is when someone tells us something and then asks us not to tell anyone, ever (they may say, “This is our little secret”). One way to… Continue Reading

It’s Christmas Time – Teaching Children How to Be Brave: Yell and Tell

It’s Christmas time – spending time with family and friends is inevitable and we must talk about the importance of teaching our children the third B: Be Brave, Yell and Tell. While I understand nobody wants to discuss the topic of child sexual abuse during the joy and loving season of Christmas, I am here to push the envelope in the hopes we simply wake up to reality. Yes, I am asking everyone to put aside the dreams of a perfect, white Christmas and understand the reality that sexual predators do not stop abusing because it’s Christmas. In fact, some may find opportunities during this season that are not always present otherwise (i.e., parents… Continue Reading

Why We Must Educate Our Children About Basic Boundaries

The second B we must teach our child is Boundaries. Boundaries are a big topic; however, for this age group we need to keep it pretty basic. Children must understand first where their space begins and where it ends (AKA physical boundaries). While working with children who had been sexually abused, we often used hula-hoops as tools for setting boundaries. You may use a hula-hoop, colorful tape, a sheet, blanket, or outdoor chalk to create boundaries on any floor space. Children are very visual and will enjoy learning about setting boundaries by using any of these materials. You can simply lay the hula-hoop on the ground and have your child… Continue Reading

Educating About Body Parts to Prevent Sexual Abuse

Before I even begin to type about this subject, I sort of giggle inside. I used to get frustrated or downright mad about people who didn’t understand that teaching children the correct anatomical names for their private parts was age appropriate. But now, it has just become kind of funny. The subject is far from funny; however, me being the one explaining it has become the funny part. If you knew me at all, you would agree that I would be the least likely person in the entire world to be discussing the importance of teaching children (as early as 6 months of age) that boys have a penis and… Continue Reading

Teaching Children ‘The Five B’s’ to Prevent Sexual Abuse

I’m hoping my previous blogs have made you more aware of the dangers of child sexual abuse and provided you with a high level of education to better prepare you to begin taking the necessary steps to educate and train your children and any children in your care to protect themselves against sexual abuse. In no way are we condoning that you can educate and train your children and no longer be an active participant in determining what is best for your child. We are saying that preventing child sexual abuse requires sharing knowledge (even if at first it makes us uncomfortable) with children. Preventing sexual abuse is an adult… Continue Reading

Your POA if a Child Discloses Abuse

I have addressed the need to deal with denial and to listen to your mama instincts, and described a profile of a sexual predator/pedophile and what grooming looks like, and described some of the signs (red flags) that a child has been sexually abused. Now we must talk about what to do if a child discloses to you they are being or have been sexually abused. If that happens, the emotional weight will be so overwhelming that it’s best to have a plan of action (POA) so that you can take immediate steps to protect the child. The first thing to note is that some children will gradually tell you,… Continue Reading

Signs of Child Sexual Abuse

Upon completion of my undergraduate degree at the age of 22, I was hired by a local hospital to work at their mental health unit for children and adolescents with emotional and mental health issues. The unit was a residential facility so the consumers could be there for months at a time. As you can imagine, there were times I loved the difference I was trying to make in their lives and other times when the stress level and chaos were overwhelming. My initial placement was on one of the units housing adolescents. But, after just a few months, I was relocated to the STARS unit. The STARS unit was… Continue Reading

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