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Prevention of child sexual abuse is an adult responsibility.

In order to prevent abuse we need to:

EDUCATE OURSELVES

What are the statistics of child sexual abuse?

  1. Depending on what resource we utilize, there will be varying statistics.
  2. Some resources share the original statistic: one out of four girls and one out of six boys will be sexually abused by the age of 18.
  3. A newer statistic (as of 2012) that is being utilized is: one out of ten children will be sexually abused by the age of 18. This statistic does not take pornography reports into account.
  4. Gavin De Becker, author of Protecting the Gift, points out that no matter what statistic we are using, it is inaccurate due to the children whom never disclose. It is also inaccurate due to the children whom do disclose to an adult; yet, the adult doesn’t report the abuse for various reasons (i.e. denial, blames the child, doesn’t believe the child, etc).
  5. I am sure we can all agree one child being sexually abused is one too many. We must Educate, Encourage, and Empower all adults on how to protect children from sexual abuse and Educate, Encourage, and Empower all children to have a voice.

What is the profile of a sexual predator/perpetrator?

  1. Sexual predators include women, men, and older youth.
  2. The profile of a sexual predator is generally very kind.
  3. Sexual predators hold themselves in the light of being a “pillar of the community”.
  4. In order to get their needs met, sexual predators will most likely “find themselves” working around children.
  5. Sexual predators are the last people you would expect to commit a sexual abuse crime because of how good and responsible they make themselves look. They work overtime to be charming and nice.

What is Grooming?

Grooming is highly manipulative behavior used to gain control over the family and the child to abuse him/her in the future.

For more information and a detailed list, please watch this short video.

 

What are Red Flags that a child has been sexually abused?

Signs a child has been sexually abused are many and vary from child to child. It is important to remember these signs can be very subtle.

Some possible indicators of sexual abuse include:

  1. Regression in behaviors (i.e. potty trained child starts wetting the bed and having multiple accidents throughout the day, regression in speech/language development, playing with and/or smearing feces on themselves and/or wall, a child with little tantrums starts to have multiple fits, falling grades, run-away behavior, etc.)
  2. Frightened beyond normal of certain people, bath time, bedtime, restroom time, school, etc.
  3. A child that plays with toys/dolls/other children in a sexual way or uses inappropriate sexual language.
  4. A child that starts to draw scary and dark pictures.
  5. Emotional distress; including anxiety, panic attacks, perfectionism, nightmares, depression
  6. Self-harm; including cutting, alcohol and drug use
  7. Harming others; including bullying, hurting animals, and setting fires

 

What do you do if your child or another child in the community has been sexually abused?

  1. Stay calm and listen to the child. If the child senses the adult is nervous, then he/she might stop sharing the information.
  2. Ask open-ended questions (i.e. tell me more about what happened, etc.). Make sure and ask this information away from the perpetrator.
  3. Assure the child that he/she will be believed, it is not his/her fault, and the adults will make sure the abuse stops.
  4. Don’t make any promises that can’t be kept (i.e. The perpetrator won’t get into trouble, etc.)
  5. Report the abuse to CPS/DSS/DCFS and/or the police. If the adult is in a facility where children are being cared for, it is that adult’s responsibility to report to CPS or police first and then to report it to an administrator.
  6. If it is your child that has been abused, then make an appointment with a trained professional to receive the services that you and your child deserve. A child that has been sexually abused can and does recover when given the appropriate guidance and counseling.

To find out where to make a report in your state, you can visit The Child Welfare Information Gateway website, www.childwelfare.gov.

For full in-depth training aimed at adults, we recommend Darkness to Light and Ministrysafe. Please visit www.d2l.org or www.ministrysafe.com to learn more.

 

EDUCATE OUR CHILDREN

It is also an adult responsibility to educate our child/children and begin the communication about this taboo topic.

​Watch our DVD with your child/children “Bailey Bee Believes in Me, The Five B’s” to bridge the gap in educating your children ages 2-6.

  1. Body Parts
  2. Boundaries
  3. Be Brave: Yell and Tell
  4. Bust Secrets
  5. Be Bold and Believe

 

EDUCATE THE COMMUNITY

It is crucial that we work together to ensure that this educational program reaches every child in America. We are aiming to reach the children that are being sexually violated in their own homes.

If you are a teacher and/or parent that is passionate about this educational program, please share this information and website with the counselor and/or administrator in your school and/or the school where your child participates.

 

ENCOURAGE OURSELVES, OUR CHILDREN, AND THE COMMUNITY

It is so important that we support, believe, and encourage anyone who has an instinct that someone might harm a child and/or sees grooming behaviors in action. This can be a traumatic experience and nobody wants to feel this way about someone they know and trust.

We must also believe any child that reports any type of abuse. We want to make sure and always err on the side of the child.

 

EMPOWER OURSELVES, OUR CHILDREN, AND THE COMMUNITY

 While this topic has been so taboo in the past, let’s empower each other to start talking about it so that sexual abuse becomes a subject of our past. We owe it to our children and to the future of this country.

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Bailey Bee Believes
"This informative DVD empowers our children and teaches valuable life lessons; Bailey Bee makes it fun.

Jennifer’s goal to raise awareness of sexual abuse for families with small children is right on target."

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