The Importance of Teaching the B, Bust Secrets

After your children have a better understanding about their Body Parts, setting Boundaries, and how to Be Brave: Yell and Tell, then we move onto our next B, which is Bust Secrets. Because predators use highly manipulative behavior in order to keep a child quiet, which includes secrets, then we must teach our children that nobody is allowed to tell us secrets and we aren’t allowed to tell secrets either. We must first be very specific and explain to the child that a secret is when someone tells us something and then asks us not to tell anyone, ever (they may say, “This is our little secret”). One way to… Continue Reading

Why We Must Educate Our Children About Basic Boundaries

The second B we must teach our child is Boundaries. Boundaries are a big topic; however, for this age group we need to keep it pretty basic. Children must understand first where their space begins and where it ends (AKA physical boundaries). While working with children who had been sexually abused, we often used hula-hoops as tools for setting boundaries. You may use a hula-hoop, colorful tape, a sheet, blanket, or outdoor chalk to create boundaries on any floor space. Children are very visual and will enjoy learning about setting boundaries by using any of these materials. You can simply lay the hula-hoop on the ground and have your child… Continue Reading

Educating About Body Parts to Prevent Sexual Abuse

Before I even begin to type about this subject, I sort of giggle inside. I used to get frustrated or downright mad about people who didn’t understand that teaching children the correct anatomical names for their private parts was age appropriate. But now, it has just become kind of funny. The subject is far from funny; however, me being the one explaining it has become the funny part. If you knew me at all, you would agree that I would be the least likely person in the entire world to be discussing the importance of teaching children (as early as 6 months of age) that boys have a penis and… Continue Reading

Teaching Children ‘The Five B’s’ to Prevent Sexual Abuse

I’m hoping my previous blogs have made you more aware of the dangers of child sexual abuse and provided you with a high level of education to better prepare you to begin taking the necessary steps to educate and train your children and any children in your care to protect themselves against sexual abuse. In no way are we condoning that you can educate and train your children and no longer be an active participant in determining what is best for your child. We are saying that preventing child sexual abuse requires sharing knowledge (even if at first it makes us uncomfortable) with children. Preventing sexual abuse is an adult… Continue Reading

Your POA if a Child Discloses Abuse

I have addressed the need to deal with denial and to listen to your mama instincts, and described a profile of a sexual predator/pedophile and what grooming looks like, and described some of the signs (red flags) that a child has been sexually abused. Now we must talk about what to do if a child discloses to you they are being or have been sexually abused. If that happens, the emotional weight will be so overwhelming that it’s best to have a plan of action (POA) so that you can take immediate steps to protect the child. The first thing to note is that some children will gradually tell you,… Continue Reading

Signs of Child Sexual Abuse

Upon completion of my undergraduate degree at the age of 22, I was hired by a local hospital to work at their mental health unit for children and adolescents with emotional and mental health issues. The unit was a residential facility so the consumers could be there for months at a time. As you can imagine, there were times I loved the difference I was trying to make in their lives and other times when the stress level and chaos were overwhelming. My initial placement was on one of the units housing adolescents. But, after just a few months, I was relocated to the STARS unit. The STARS unit was… Continue Reading

Stay Ahead of a Sexual Predator…

When discussing the topic of child sexual abuse with most adults, I tend to get inquisitive looks or blank stares, when I first address the subject of grooming. The looks are usually followed with the question, “What is grooming?” Most often, adults think of grooming as brushing a child’s hair. Unfortunately, in the language used to discuss child sexual abuse and the behavior of the sexual predator, this word is far worse and has implications that actually harm a child. Grooming is highly manipulative behavior carried out to desensitize the victim and to create a trusting relationship with the family. Grooming the family is a technique utilized by the sexual… Continue Reading

Who Sexually Abuses Children, Anyway?

Thinking back to the Disney movies that portrayed the “bad guys” when I was growing up makes me realize that the portrayal of a “bad guy” can get us in trouble. Unfortunately, those portrayals may also be stuck in some of your minds and can be dangerous to hold onto. That is why today, I will be discussing the reality of the real “bad guy” and what that can really look like so that you are able to better protect your own children from child sexual abuse. Speaking of Disney, they finally got it right for my children’s generation! When I watched the movie Frozen for the first time, I… Continue Reading

What is Child Sexual Abuse?

Since you have come to the realization that someone you know, love, and trust may be a sexual predator, it is time to add and store more information to your file folder. While this may be a lot to take in, I plan to give you a little information each week to build your folder with necessary information to ultimately protect your children and other children from child sexual abuse. This week, we will define what child sexual abuse is. Most people probably have a general idea; however, there are some forms of child sexual abuse that many people do not categorize as such. Child sexual abuse includes types of… Continue Reading

Using Mama Instincts to Prevent Sexual Abuse

Now that you have taken the time to write and cross out the word ‘denial’ on the front of your folder and written and crossed out the word ‘paranoid’ on the back, it’s finally time to open up that folder. The word that needs to be placed on the inside of your folder is: INSTINCTS. That’s right, it’s our bolded word, our go-to word, our powerhouse word that needs to be circled over and over again. It’s the word that will ultimately protect your children from sexual predators. Speaking of instincts, I love watching nature shows. Watching the Animal Planet gently reminds me that all animals are given mighty instincts… Continue Reading


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